Today's blog post is about Respect. I can remember a conversation many, many years ago between Rich and myself. We had probably only been married 3 or 4 years. Rich said to me, "Larissa, I just need your respect!" I replied to him, "what have you done to earn it?" I'll never forget what he said back. It stayed with me and still stays with me. Although, I do have to admit, at the time I didn't understand it at all.
He said, "Larissa, respect isn't something that is earned. It either is or it isn't." (meaning it is either there and exists or it doesn't) That one flew right over my head at the time. Believe me, I thought about his words. I allowed his words to fully sink in - but I still didn't quite understand it. It took me awhile to realize that what he was saying was absolutely true in every way. There was absolutely nothing that Rich could do to earn my respect. His position in our family - alone - was worthy of my respect. Putting aside all else, the fact that God gave him the role of leader in our family was worthy of my respect.
My husband is worthy of my respect. I have had to try to figure out what causes my husband to feel disrepected by me. That can be difficult sometimes. There are still times that I am disrespectful - and totally floored when he tells me. What a journey marriage is!
I'd love to hear from my women readers on just this topic! Please post a comment here about where you are in respecting your husband. I'd love to pray for you on your journey.